- Demand for admiration
- Pitfall: goal is to seek praise and gain privileged positions
- Beomes resentful is not praised
- Instead of praise: focus on their everyday action and concern, teach them they have worth without being special
- Attention drawing
- By mischief or incompetence
- What to do: Through respect we can convey there is no need to be special
- Power struggles
- By resistance or disobedience
- What to do: get off the battlefield asap
- Revenge
- cant get love, now trying to get hate
- Example: self harm, violence, abusive language
- What to do: seek help from other party
- Proof of incompetence
- Start to despair of life, despise themselves
- What to do: turn to a specialist
All stages rooted in “securing a special position within the community”
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