Regardless of what may have occurred in the past, nothing is determined by it. It does not matter if there are past traumas either.
Example: “My home environment was bad, and that’s why I have a dark personality.” This is a life-lie. →
The truth is that the person has the goal of “I don’t want to get hurt by getting involved with other people,” → past experience as excuse
Instead we determine our lives by the meaning we give to the events
Next: change is hard