Normal social thinking:
- romantic love is something one falls into
- Uncontrollable impulse
Love as a life task theory:
- We do not “fall” in love:
- it is something we build
- People avoid looking directly at the task resort to destiny (divine) or instinct (animalistic)
- “Falling in love” is like materialistic obsession. Likely getting tired quickly after getting it.
- To be loved is difficult, to love is more difficult
Next: Life tasks and happiness